Find Your Comfort Zone
In my last article about my home renovation, I discussed how important it is to take a risk and step out of your comfort zone. In this installment, I want to remind everyone how trying a home renovation project can be and how important it is to find a few things to help keep you comfortable in the construction zone!
When I think of any photoshoot, project, or collaboration I’ve ever completed, this was clearly the hardest and most stressful project I had ever done. There were days I really just wanted to give up, tell all the workers to go home and just get a semi-life back and by living in a half-completed house.
And then there were other days when I was happier than a girl at a Bergdorf’s shoe sale! I was so excited to take on my painting projects, my 900 phone calls of the day, my micro-management duties, a multitude of math problems, and of course negotiations with everyone under the sun.
Do you know what truly kept me sane when I was in the house with all the projects and all the workers were getting in my zone? I had three Pandora Radio stations that made me so supremely happy: Ella Fitzgerald Radio, Motown Radio, and Rihanna Radio. Singing along to Gershwin classics, boppin’ along to Marvin Gaye’s What’s Going On (my favorite song of all time), and dancing to a little Rihanna just made everything so much better.
Another thing that also made me ridiculously happy and slowly became my obsession was a large iced peach green tea from Starbucks. With no AC in the house and 90 degree days, it was the treat that kept me cool, literally and figuratively.
One of the first things I did when we moved into our home and the renovation hadn’t yet begun was plant myself a little rose garden. I made a nice home for David Austin English roses at the entrance of the front door and right by the side door. Every time I walked in and out of the house, their mesmerizing smell made me feel like I walked into a surreal rose garden.
The ironic part was the juxtaposition of the elegant pink rose bushes smelling in all of their glory and the monstrous dumpster a mere three feet away (not even exaggerating) smelly in all of its pungent glory. As simple as it sounds, these roses were my sanity saver on so many days!
There was that one day when I asked one of the electricians to bring up from the basement the enormous box in which my dining room crystal chandelier had been stored. It was quite the scene watching him struggle with this box but refusing any help. I held my breath until the very last step, which apparently was not long enough. The next thing I knew, that box landed on the floor with a thud followed by a shattering sound, followed by a, “are you f’in kidding me?!!” One of the crystal arms of the chandelier broke in half, and it took every last ounce of energy I had left to control the flood of tears that had accumulated behind my eyes. I went outside, took a few deep breaths, picked up my sharp gardening shears, and no, I did not stab the electrician (although tempting). Instead, I went to my roses and started pruning them. Sounds crazy, I know. But for me, something about being outside, smelling their hypnotizing fragrance and keeping busy by cutting myself a beautiful bouquet just zenned me out.
Bringing my roses and hydrangeas inside for some happiness
For some people, it’s good music or taking a jog or good food or something as crazy as pruning roses. My simple suggestion is to find something, anything that will put you in a happy bubble for even five minutes so you can collect your thoughts, find the funny in whatever situation you’re in and keep chugging along in your little adventure. It has to end eventually, right?
But, not before a few more crashes. Yes, this is exactly how one of my sinks was shipped to me. Just a sink and a box, in pieces.
You’ll get to that finish line and who knows, it might be the next day, or like for me, a year later. Eventually, you’ll stand there and look around at your creation and think, holy shit, I cannot believe I just went through all of that. I cannot believe I cried over a broken sink. I cannot believe I spent a king’s ransom on frickin’ plumbing that no one can even see. I cannot believe I sat on 10 different toilets in the middle of Lowe’s Goldilocks-style to find the perfect throne for my king. I cannot believe they didn’t put me on the payroll at the tile store and Home Depot after the number of hours I clocked there. The biggest disbelief? I cannot believe that it’s finally done and that I did it all by myself!
Here are my ever-precious before and after photos that I never thought I would look at with a huge smile while listening to Ella Fitzgerald Radio seated in my perfect kitchen…
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LET THE DEMO BEGIN!
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Done!
BATHROOM RENOVATION
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Crystal knobs against marble with a chrome finish
DINING ROOM
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POWDER ROOM
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The details that I love…
The number of hours I spent searching for the perfect sink and faucet…
One of my favorite hobbies in life is gardening, so transforming the outside of this house was just as important as what was going on inside the house…
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A year after taking this photo, we finally built the patio that I’ve always dreamed of. Read about the entire makeover, with plenty of before and afters here…
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Perfect spot for my rose and herb garden… chillin’ out here with my hubby, front row seats to the kids’ slip-and-slide extravaganza!
There’s nothing like coming out here and picking fresh herbs while I’m cooking.
My husband’s birthday falls on the year mark of our little project gone big, and there’s nothing more that he and I could have wished for than being with our little prince in our castle that we call home.
Take another fun look inside Alisa’s home in this Houzz article.
For more design inspiration, find Alisa’s home and others inside the pages of, “Your Home, Your Style” By Donna Garlough.
Alisa Kapinos has been a fashion stylist and personal shopper for almost 15 years. She started her career in fashion working for a Boston based magazine as their Fashion and Beauty Editor and then went onto become their Editor in Chief. During this time she produced and styled countless photo shoots, working with top designers and top photographers. She has been lucky enough to attend many New York Fashion Weeks, also styling shoots for commercials and print ads, as well as assisting in styling Samantha Brown on the Travel Channel and the Jonas Brothers on their Boston stop during their musical tour. She then began her career as a personal stylist to some of Boston’s most notable people, as well as women and men from all walks of life. What her clients love about her is her attention to detail, her understanding of personal style (not just what’s trending), and her ability to mix high end with affordable pieces that fit everyone’s budget. Through her work in the fashion industry, she has also partnered with many charitable organizations to bring awareness and raising money for their causes. Recently, Alisa has taken her passion for interior design and has worked on a few interior projects for local clients. She has had her own home, which she renovated herself, featured in a home design book and a few home websites. Alisa’s greatest loves are her husband of 11 years, her two dogs and her three kids. She loves photography and taking photos, loves to travel, to write, to garden, to decorate, to cook and spend time with her family and friends.
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